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responsible woman

A cobble by itself is just a small stone, but when many of them lay together they create a path . My life is made up of many discrete parts. I have to find ways to fit them all into place so that I can continue to journey where I desire to go. This journal records some of the cobbles that create my path.


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responsible woman

Today I am 38 years old. Twenty years ago I was in my last semester of high school and had my whole life ahead of me. Twenty years from now I will know for sure that more of my life is behind me than ahead. Right now I am somewhere in the middle. I am comfortable with middles. I am the middlemost of 7 children. I live in a geographical nexus point so that most of my relatives stop by as they are passing through. I’m probably about half way between the birth of my oldest and the departure of my youngest. US culture would have us believe that middle age is to be dreaded. It is when people are supposed to have a crisis of identity. I feel I know who I am and who I want to be, and I’m tired of crisis right now. I haven’t the energy for it. So I think I’ll keep going along and knowing that the middle is actually a good place to be.

Mirrored from onecobble.com.

  • Happy birthday!

    And I agree, being in the middle can be good. It all depends on what you're in the middle of.
    • This is true. There are some middles I can't wait to escape. Right now most of the things I'm in the middle of are good.
  • Happy birthday, Sandra!!!

    I'm about a year behind you, and so far, I don't get the whole midlife crisis thing. In a lot of ways, every year has been better than the last.

    Enjoy 38! (And hey, are you guys coming to Penguicon this year?)
    • No Penguicon for us this year, sadly. Too much work here at home.
    • Thanks for the birthday wishes.

      I've had better years than 2010, but I've had much worse years too. In general I agree with you. I like where my life is headed even if every moment is not filled with unmitigated delight.

      I think midlife crises happen to people who either haven't spent time examining their lives prior to mid-life, or to people who have somehow drifted far from their dreams and need a course correction. Unfortunately some people react to the emotional turmoil in less-than-completely-self-aware ways.

      Unfortunately my only away from home event will be WorldCon in Reno. Will you be there? Howard is going to Ad Astra though.
      • I've had better years than 2010, but I've had much worse years too.

        And the "middle" motif continues! :-)

        I agree. Back in the South, when people are asked how they're doing, I've often heard them respond, "Fair to middlin'." I've used the expression myself out here in Utah several times, and I've been a little bit surprised a few times when people say, "Oh, I'm sorry!" My though is, "You know, it's not always going to be sunshine and lollipops, and you know what? That's okay. Right now I'm in the middle. Things may get worse. They may get better. But right here is where I'm supposed to be right now. I'll figure out the problems, and I'll enjoy the triumphs."

        Happy birthday, Sandra. Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences with us for so long. Sometimes it may seem like you're just shouting out into the void, but you're having a positive impact on several lives. :-)
        • Thank you. It often does feel like shouting into a void, but occasionally I can see that there is no void.

          "Fair to Middlin" I'll have to use that.
      • Dang. Nope, I'm not going to be at WorldCon or Ad Astra this year.
  • PPY BIR!
  • Happy Birthday Mrs. Tayler!

    38 really isn't in the middle, for most women it's 42. So you have 4 more years of not being in the middle, and when you are, you will be the answer for everything!
  • Happy Birthday! Didn't realize I was so much older than you! You are still a baby
  • Happy Birthday!

    I am amazed that I am older than you. I hope you have a great year and I see you again someday soon.
  • Happy birthday!
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